Hao Lian! *pui* - part 2

after i've shared my experienced about the 2 haolian girls that i have met in my life, i realized i have forgotten 2 more haolian-ers whom i've met recently. seriously, i really do attract a lot of haolian-ers. HAHAHA. wonder why. maybe i am too easy-going and so haolian-ers think that im actually impressed with them.

anyway, recently, i got to know this auntie. she is also a fellow singaporean who got married to Hong Kong. so we were basically chatting over MSN over nonsense. and then suddenly, she starts to haolian to me about how filial she is to her parents. she was telling me that she bought BUSINESS class SQ tickets for her parents to fly from Singapore to Hong Kong. she was telling me she brought her dad out to wherever he wanted to go. she was telling me she cooked really nice food for her parents. she was telling me her dad bought her a tv but she refused to accept because she wanted her dad to keep the money for himself. seriously, do i look like i care? i mean i know you're filial but you dont have to prove to me that you are really filial. filial piety is not meant to be used as a tool for showing-off. and occassionaly, she will sms me just to tell me what she has just done for her parents. when im bored, i'll reply her. but most of the time, i ignore. i mean i do like her as she's really kind and nice but i dont have to know how filial she is.

recently, just realized this other guy at work is SUPER haolian and whiney. he complained NON-STOP. and when i said non-stop, i was not exaggerating. everyday, when i start a conversation with him, he would start complaining. and to make matters worse, his complaints were always the same. and in his complaints, he's always whining about how much work he had to do, how stupid the sales people are, how annoying the clients are, how no one was helping him and all the shit. seriously, initially i was okay to hear those shit from him. but then his shit got repeated over and over and over again and it's the same old shit. come on, we all know that you're doing a lot of shit and etc etc and we really empathize with you on your work BUT seriously, do you have to complain non-stop? he started with complaining about the workload. then he moved on with how horrible the other teams are and how uncooperative and inefficient they were. and then he moved on to lashing out at the salesforce for not doing their job. and guess what? not only did he complain to me and my team, he complain to the other teams as well, regardless if it was the first time they have met. seriously, that is not very professional. all of us have our own shit and we know our own shit. the fact that your shit was not moving as smoothly as you wanted it to be, it didnt give you the right to lash it out at us. and today, he seriously cross the line. we had a meeting with our global manager and it was a sales meeting. i asked him to speak at the meeting about his recent successes and all the shit. but guess what? he ended up complaining. and i can hear from the other line ( it was a teleconference ) that my global manager is pissed to the max. seriously, grow up and stop complaining! and when he complained, it's full of arrogance and it could get rather annoying.

and to add on to this, he's also super haolian. first, he commented that 2 of our team-mates are not proactive enough to be in sales. and i told him " dude, look. they have their way or working and they know their shit. you not seeing them proactive doesnt mean they are not sales-y enough. " and guess what? this guy, on certain occassion, tried to act like sales and started to 'sell" our products when his job was to implement the service. this really pissed off one of my colleague. seriously, we know you're good at what you're doing and we know you're a good salesperson, but at this moment, you're not a salesperson and so dont do what we were hired to do! and there was once, we went out for lunch. and he started lashing out at my team for not selling a certain product which was easier to implement. he was rattling on and on about how certain companies need our service and why were we not selling them. i said " seriously, do you know why? because this is not the solution for them. why do we want to sell them something that doesnt work? " and he said " so we're just going to let these money go? " and i replied " that is why we have different products. and we sell those products to these people. " then he kept quiet. OMG. he knows nothing about what we do and the products and he had the cheek to "criticize" me and my team for not selling? guess what? his manager actually support him. DUHZ. another stubborn cow.

the recent saga was that he was on a call with the client. and the client told him something which the current service that was sold to the client was not compatible. without a hesitation, he started to lash it out at my colleague for selling the wrong solution to the client. seriously, how can you trust a client? even if the client was right, how would it make us look in front of the client if we were on the opposite side? and so, my manager has to mitigate the whole thing. trying to make him see that client may not be always telling the truth and we need to find out the real reason and etc etc. seriously, i thought it was pretty common sense!!!

funnily, yesterday he was complaining to me about the NY team. he said he was on the phone with them till late on Friday evening to hear them argue over senseless stuffs. and he said that he could finish what they want to give them in one day or even half a day. but because he was sooo busy with all the shit on a daily basis, he didnt have time. but because he's so "efficient", he would do it and send what they needed from him so that it would showcase his efficiency. well, when i started talking to him, he had already started doing the shit. 3 hours later, i asked if he's done, he said " this is taking longer than i expected. it's not tough but it's manual and takes time to put things together " at that moment i was like " HAHAHA, so you're not exactly that efficient, arent you? " he really think he's that efficient and good that everyone else but him suck. so i said " eh, i thought you said it's pretty easy? " and he said " oh well, im giving them more than what they're expecting and so.." i was sooo tempted to say " ya right " but i didnt. all i said was " oh, good luck. " *rolls eyes*

on a side note, another team-mate of mine commented that she's cool with him. i told her that you're cool with him because you know nothing and so she could only pass it to him and trust him to do the job. and she argued that she really thinks that he's good. i argued back that i didnt deny the fact that he's good but seriously, he should stop complaining. she still insisted that he's good and she's cool with him. seriously, she thought everyone's cool with her. that's not the case. wanted to tell her but i know she'll deny. and so, never mind. save my breath for breathing.

F.R.I.E.N.D.S

does this only happen in dramas?

was sharing a cab with another colleague the other day. i like him. i prefer to call him my friend instead of colleague because i really like him. anyway, we were just chit-chatting. he asked me " so have you found any more new friends? " and i was like " eh, nope! how sad is that? but i think i have lost my zeal to make new friends. i just find it too tiring. sometimes, i just do things alone. can be lonely but anyhow, i'll get over the loneliness. " he then replied " i think you're spending too much time concentrating on friends at work. so you dont have time and energy to do it outside work. just my analysis "

now that really sets me thinking. am i just tired of making friends or am i just interested in making friends at work? to be honest, i have no idea at all. sometimes, i am really tired of making friends. i hate the whole process of going out and meeting new people and wonder if they will become my friends. i am no longer in high school where making friends is part and parcel of life. but again, to be honest, i do feel lonely at times in Hong Kong. because i have no friends, i got to stay at home and watch tv. not that i am grumbling but sometimes, i just want to be out but there's no one to go out with. but then again, i think i am really getting used to this sporadic loneliness.

at work, i wouldnt think my team-mates are my friends. yes we hang out at work and sometimes after work but mainly because there's business to be done. i dont mind hanging out with my team-mates or my boss but sometimes, i just dont want to see them again after sitting near them for 10 hours at work. maybe this is what tires me out. seeing the same people over and over again but yet not wanting to make an effort to meet new people. what a contradiction. i seriously have no idea the difference between friends, colleagues, good friends, best friends, acquaintances or whatsoever anymore. now i think my train of thoughts are all messed up. haha!

thinking back, when i was in SG, i usually spent my weekends at home too. although i have friends in SG. i mean most of my friends are in SG but i usually just spend it at home, nuahing and watching tv. so then again, maybe im just getting nuah. haha. actually to be honest, although i seems like an extrovert and can make friends easily, i am not really that extroverted. i prefer to think i am an introvert, forced to be an extrovert. i dont tihnk i make friends that easily because i dont really trust friendship. it's just that somehow, i am always conforming to the social perception of me being the friendly one. no idea how it all started. but honestly, i think i am not friendly, im just easygoing, too easygoing if you ask me. i want to change this but it's not easy. but i am trying. actually not really. haha!

Ugly Chinese

i am a chinese. i am not ashamed that i am a chinese. but i dont like it when people said im a china-chinese. i didnt mean to generalize or to be rude but i seriously think the china-chinese sucks. they are rude, arrogant and uncivilized. they think the world of themselves when they are actually very unsightly.

recently, i had a very very bad experience with a group of annoying, ugly and disgusting china-chinese. i was on the plane. when i got to my seat, i was like " WTF, chinese ". i was seated in the midst of a huge group of chinese. they were noisy, rude, rowdy and they think the plane belongs to them. they were playing "musical chairs" throughout the whole flight. one moment, ugly chinese woman sat next to me, next moment, ugly chinese man sat next to me, the next moment, ugly chinese woman decided to ask the ugly chinese man to sit somewhere else so that she can put her legs on the seat. WTF. they even asked if i can take the window seat instead of the aisle seat. i told them with a firm " NO! " then i plugged into my music ( thank god for music )

halfway through the flight, the chinese woman next to me was flipping through the magazine and decided to buy the ugliest watch inside that catalog. trust me, there are many nice things inside but the chinese woman has to choose the ugliest watch i've ever seen. it's the kind of watch only 2 persons in the world would like : the designer and the stupid chinese. anyway i was sleeping and was woken up by the racket ABOVE and BESIDE me. apparently, chinese woman decided to pay with credit card but then changed her mind and wanted to pay with cash and etc etc. so chinese woman and another chinese woman was discussing with the air stewardess RIGHT next to me. WTF. they were going on and on and on. simply because the stewardess' english is not good and the chinese' english was bad. they were arguing about something very simple. and a few times, they actually hit my head accidentally. i went " HEY WATCH IT " and they just ignored me ( well, the stewardess apologized ). they were haggering around me for a good 30 mins and i got so pissed off, i stood up and went to the toilet. super annoying.

thank god, they finished when i was back from the toilet. but as i was still annoyed, i decided to be as irritating as they were. i pushed my seat ALL THE WAY DOWN so that the chinese behind me will feel uncomfortable. he had accidentally grabbed my hair a few times and also kicked my chair non-stop. and then i kicked the chair in front of me continuously so that he can feel how his fellow friend had been doing to me. HAHA. and when the plane landed, i refused to stand up and allow them to take their stuffs. and then i stood up to get my stuffs and then i sat down again. HAHA. i can so see their kiasu face, all worried and annoyed. but i didnt care. i was really really pissed.

again, i do not want to generalize but most of the time and most of my friends agree that chinese-chinese are a disgrace! *puke*

Racist & Selfish! *pui*

was talking to this friend of mine. actually am not sure if i can call him a friend. but anyhow, it doesnt matter. so this friend and i was just chatting. we were talking in general about people who play the field and about people who are super-duper committed.

i personally respect the players as i feel that they have the guts to play and the guts to admit that they are players. at the very least, they never give anyone false hopes and lead them on to think that there will be happily everafter. on the other hand, i also respect the super-duper committed kinds. i salute them for being so committed that they can do anything for the other half. it takes a lot a lot a lot of effort and energy to do that and not everyone has that kind of energy. but that doesnt mean i despise the rest. generally i guess it depends.

So..this is the conversation:

me: so would you rather have a committed relationship or would you rather play the field?
he: i want to be neither. i want to have committed sex relationship.
me: huh? what do you mean by that?
he: well, i dont want to bear the commitments of being a boyfriend but i want to have a sexual relationship with just one partner.
me: eh you mean a sex buddy?
he: kinda but not really. i dont want my sex buddy to sleep around though.
me: huh? what kind of relationship is this? you want to have sex relationship with this girl but yet you dont want to bear any responsibility and yet you dont allow her to sleep around. WTF. isnt that selfish?
he: well, sorry but i am kinda racist. can you imagine screwing someone who has just been screwed by an indian? maybe an ang-moh is still alright, but not an indian.
me: WHAT? you mean you will never screw someone who has been dating an indian? and you would only date a chinese?
he: yup! correct!
me: WTF. that is soooo racist and soooo selfish. you cannot promise the girl anything but yet you expect the girl to be with you ONLY. and you think you're superior to other races just because you're chinese? who do you think you are?
he: well, i have no lack of girls if i want to sleep around. so the fact that im committed to just one girl sexually, that's quite a thing already.
me: seriously, good luck.

to be honest, im very disgusted by his thinking and all. how can anyone be sooo racist and so selfish? seriously. *puke*

Hao Lian! *pui*

seriously, i have no idea why. i seems to be able to attract " hao lian " people to talk to me. basically " hao lian" means arrogant and show-off. i have no idea if it's my face, my responses or my attitude that made these hao-lianers think that i am actually interested in the stuffs that they are hao-lianing to me. so werid. to date, i can only remember 2 such person who like to hao-lian to me for nothing.

i remember in secondary school, when i was 13/14, i have this classmates. she was FOREVER haolian-ing to me about how she only buys branded goods and how guys are mesmerized with her. seriously, to start haolian-ing, i believe one needs to be of a certain standard. i am not saying that this classmate of mine was sub-standard BUT seriously, i wasnt sure if she was haolian-ing or lying. with regards to branded goods, the only branded stuffs that i've seen on her are t-shirts. seriously, how branded was that??!!! okok maybe to a teenager, it was. BUT seriously, she didnt need to call me EVERYTIME she bought a new Versace, D&G or DKNY t-shirt. do i look like i really care? as for guys, she wasnt exactly a beauty, not even average-looking. she's kinda huge and has very fair skin ( not the nice fair but the white fair and it made her look sick ). so whenver she haolian-ed that her boyfriend was very good to her and etc etc, she could only show me the picture of a guy. period. 0r there would be times, when she haolianed to me about how this ang-moh tried to pick up her at her estate and this ang moh was drop-dead gorgeous. till this day, i had never seen that ang-moh. interesting. but seriously, i hope to meet up with her again. i wanna see what she is doing now and how is life treating her. tried googling her and fb-ing her but nowhere to be found. still trying. wish me luck!

then recently, i kinda make a new friend at work. she covers the taiwan market and so do i and so we happen to have dinners and lunches a few times in taipei. and while having lunches and dinners, we kinda need to chat right? and so we chatted. well, initially, i was just trying to dig out more information about herself and so i was asking general questions. but at times, her answers were pretty interesting. i remembered, i once asked her " so do you get pick up by clients a lot? " in fact, i have asked this questions to many sales reps in my office and 99% of them would answer " aiyah, this is just a number game. and it doesnt really matter loh " but this friend of mine replied " of course i do get picked up, in fact several times. but of course i didnt accept their invitations to dinners and all.... " and she went on and on about how to reject clients nicely and how not to whatever whatever. SERIOUSLY, i am not interested to know how your clients picked you up. it was just a conversational question. another time, we were talking about school. so just talking about general stuff in school. she said " actually i wanted to keep a low profile in school but somehow, it's not that easy. i was always being noticed by people in school. in fact, im kinda like the high-flyer in school. i can study quite well and i excel in sports and stuffs " mmm, what did she expect me to say? all i said was " orh " . period. i didnt even praise her or anything but every now and then, she will re-emphasize that she is a high-flyer in school and she's darn popular with guys and etc etc etc. so haolian right??? *puke*

BUT.....on one occassion, i managed to "overturn" her haolian-ness. she was once haolian-ing to me that she and the Asia sales manager are kinda closed as he was the one who helped her to relocate to HK ( oh she's a fellow singaporean who relocated to HK around the same time as me. however, she is alawys faking the taiwanese accent which gets on my nerves . argh!). she mentioned that whenever the sales manager is in HK, they will definitely sit down and have a nice long chat. so one day, while having lunch, she mentioned " finally it's friday and the HK manager is not around. yay! " and to that i replied " oh, but the Asia manager is in HK right? " and she gave a very shocked look and said " really? he's in hk? i thought he has left. are you sure he's in HK? " and to that i replied " yup, im absolutely sure. just saw him before i left for lunch. mmm, you mean you havent spoken to him yet? thought you guys will always chat when he's in HK? " to that, she kept quiet and changed the topic. HAHAHAHA. that was my happiest moment of the week!