Break-Up Friend

 i am sure many people have gone into and out of relationships. it's very common and i believe it is happening all the time. and when people get into or out of relationships, they would always want to share with their friends. having said that, i personally feel that it's very normal for a person to want to share good news and bad news with friends but there is so much i can handle. of course, i am not saying that i dont share and i do want to share but i think one should always think about the other party when sharing.

of course, when it's good news, it's much easier to share and much easier on the other person. but of course, saying too much of " he's such a great guy " and " im so in love " can be a little annoying and torturing but still, at least it's good news. so good news is always something nice. therefore, i am pretty happy to hear such things from a friend. and of course, if such things happen to me ( which i dont think have ever happen to me ), i would do the same to a friend. however, no matter how inevitable it is and how i tried to embrace the fact that my friends would need to spend time with their new boyfriend/girlfriend, i still cannot help but think that it's very disgusting if my friend totally "ignore" me during that period. personally, i would give my friend an "expiry date". usually if my friend ignored me for like 1 or 2 months, i think it's very natural. anything more than that, i would think it's disgusting. this just goes to show much that friend actually value me as a friend.

on another note, when it's bad news, one would tend to want to share more and would want to have people always by their side. this, i totally understand, but again, i have a limit. and to be very honest, my patience for handling friends who whined and cried over break-ups is very very little. i totally understand why one would want to whine and cry and complain but seriously, there is a limit to how much one can handle the same issue/problem. i know it takes time for one to get over another. i know it's hard. i know it's easier said than done. i know all these but again, i cannot help but get annoyed with continuous whining and nonsensical thinking. it's even worse when it's a friend who "ignored" me the whole time he/she was attached and only come crying for my company when he/she got dumped.

anyway, recently, i am "plagued" with this "disease". this friend of mine has just broken up with her boyfriend. she called me and cried and said she wanted me to keep her company. well, i dont mind and of course i said " ya, i will keep you company ". however, this is the beginning of my "nightmare". for that weekend, i have to keep her company for 3 FULL DAYS. she never goes to the beach. now she kept pestering me to go to the beach with her. simply because her ex likes to go to the beach. i told her " i am tired ", she kept pestering. after beach, she said to have dinner. after dinner, she asked to go out for drinks. i said ' i am sleepy ' she ignored me. and i dont like to go to a particular beach because it's inaccessible and troublesome and she insisted. fine, we go and there's no sun and it's cold. so i suggested going home. she said she couldnt go home as she would let her thoughts go wild. she would start to imagine her ex and another girl having sex. she would start to imagine her ex having fund with another girl in bali. SERIOUSLY, GET A LIFE. and whenever, we're out, she's always looking for him and asking me why did he want to break up with her. HOW THE FARK I KNOW? her ex sails and she's suddenly into sailing. she said it's soo fun. and she kept pestering me to do it. and i told her " i dont have money and i dont like it " then she kept saying it's nice and etc etc etc. and she kept asking me to hang out with her. i dont mind but it's boring hanging out with her because she kept talking about the ex and about boring stuffs. and even when at the beach, usually i would read a book or just chill. she wanted to keep talking. and the moment we talked, it's about the ex and why the ex doesnt want to be with her and what if the ex is having sex with another girl. SERIOUSLY, HOW THE FARK I KNOW?? and when i told her i need to go to my company's dragonboat practice,she asked if she can come along. i said im going to Spain with my friends, she asked if she can come along. is she THAT desperate? i am sure i am not her only friend. maybe not only am i her backup for boyfriend but im also the backup for her friends.

mmm, maybe im selfish and maybe im a bitch but i really have enough of her. she's really pissing me off by just calling me! i told her i am not "Charlotte" from SATC and I will not tolerate her nonsense for long. i told her she had to stop dramatizing everything! it's really getting on my nerves. argh.